CHLLady wrote:You are fighting your instincts. You are being nice and denying your alarms in order to rationalize this into some kind of normal explanation. Your friend asked you if you were in danger and you said no! She could see it in your eyes and demeanor. You really need to stop the denial and trust yourself! I know where you are coming from, so don't take it personally. I'm too nice myself and long fight these bad habits! Please document date & times every incident, keep receipts to show you were at the particular store, write a full description of the event and any witnesses. Although he may not have committed a crime, it seems as if he is using predator tactics with you. Trust yourself!
You do NOT have to be nice to him, even if he knows your parents! It's OK to put your B face on and show him you're no easy target. Don't ignore him when you catch him looking at you or getting out of line to follow you. Grab your friend and tell her you feel as if you're being followed and turn so both of you can stare at him! Pull out your cell and take a picture of him in his face. Put HIM on notice! It's time to make him uncomfortable. Let him see you looking at the mace on your keychain, make it obvious it's in your hand as you leave the store. You may even have to confront him, but only do so inside the store with witnesses! Tell him straight up to leave you alone. Train yourself to not be too friendly. Ask a bagger or store clerk to walk you to your car! I've never heard of a large store denying a customer.
Please read this book I highly recommended in this thread:
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Keep us updated! Stay safe and keep your mace and CH ready. You got this!
