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I have not been on the forum for a few years and found this thread. I must say that it has been strange reading some of the old stuff.
My wife has come around to where she no longer asks if I'm going to carry or if I am carrying. I got to the point that I just carried and worried about what she would say later. We now have kids and I think that she understands that I do it for her and for them. I started with a little 38 in my pocket, then my full size 1911, then a little 380, now most days in my compact 1911. I have tried to get her to get her LTC, but so far she does not want it, so I don't push it.

Venus Pax wrote: This was a perfect scenario. The threat was just enough to get her thinking.

You are right, and since this is one of her fav. places to eat, then I am sure that it will keep her thinking.

anygunanywhere wrote:You two need to give your handguns "pet names".

Kim, Smitty, Wes....

Better than "DO you have your gun?"

Anygun

I was thinking the same thing. I have tried this in the past, but she was not big on it, because she did not want me to carry. But now that she is more open to me carrying, I will bring it up again.

Well, things seem to be looking better for me with my wife. She seems to be more open to me carrying. I met her for dinner last night, and I took the little .25 that we have. As we were about to order, the waiter told us about what happened at lunch. They had someone in there that was caseing that they think was going to rob the place. After the waiter left, she asked me if I had a gun on me. To which I told her yes, and it did not make her upset. I am not sure what changed her mind, but just little steps. I will work on being able to carry something bigger. But for now it is a start.

I dont think that would be a good idea for my wife. In fact I think that it would set things back even more then they are now. She would flip when it was over and I did not call the police to report it. Plus it goes back to not lying to her.

swiven thanks for your post. I have asked her if I were to carry something smaller if she would be ok with it, and so far she still says no. I see your point about not carring anything when with her. I have in the past carried a smaller gun, but made sure that she did not see me when I geared up or geared down.
I have not said anything to her about it this week as I try to get some info from you all and from news stories. I think that I am going to give it another week or two before I bring it up again,like you said swiven, if I give her time where I dont talk to her about it she may be more open to it.

Charles, thanks for the link to the Women & Guns forum. I have not had a chance to read anything in there yet, but will this week.

Thanks to all who have given my ideas, and if anyone else thinks of anything else please send it. As I feel this is going to be a long battle for me.

MrsFosforos,
Thank you for sharing. I will have my wife read it.
I just hope that something will make her change her mind.

Wildscar wrote:

chewy555 wrote:Can anyone point me to something that might help me with her? Thanks for any help.

I surprised no one has said the simplest thing.

Step 1) Turn on TV
Step 2) Watch News

I have tried that, so far no luck. She thinks that it would not happen to us.

RPBrown wrote: All kidding aside, sometimes it takes something traumatic to happen to her or someone that is close to her (God forbid), or something as simple as talking to other women that carry.

But do not try to force the issue. This will make it worse instead of better>

I think that I did force it before. I have backed off for now.
I hope that it does not come one of her firends getting hurt, but it may be the only way.

I guess that I have been going about it the wrong way to find out what her reasons are. I have tried for the last 2 to 3 weeks to find out.
So far what I do know is this, she thinks that the gun that I normaly carry is to big. Yes it is a big gun, HK USP 45 FS, but no one has seen it when I have carried it. Plus she thinks that waistband carry is wrong. But she wont tell me why she thinks this way.
Thanks to all why have given me some tips to try. I hope that one day she will come to understand why I carry.

Fourman wrote:Just remember you wear the pants in the family after she picks them out for you.

My wife has issues with guns but is slowly warming up to, now she has a CHL. Also I have the easy reason "I had the guns and CHL before we met".

Brian

That is so ture, she does pick them out. Maybe not pick them out, but has made me change which pants I was wearing.
I hope that she will come around to letting me carry more.
I have gotten all of my guns since we got together.

Jedi and Anygun,
Thanks for the insight.
I will try to get her to look at cornerdcat.com.
I will also print out some news clippings about CHL holders defending themselves and others.
I just hope that she will read them.

I have taken her to go shooting. In fact, she may be a better shot then I am.
She just thinks that the guns should stay at home or the range.

This is a question that I have been putting off asking for awhile. I had hoped that I could answer it on my own but so far no luck.
My question is: What can I do to help my wife see why I got my CHL and why I want to carry it everywhere that it is legal for me to?
Alittle back ground: I have been married just over 2 years. I got my CHL this last March. She knew that I was getting it and was ok with that. But now that I have it she does not like for me to carry. If I am going out by myself or without her then I carry. But if she is with me right now I do not carry. I have carried a few times when she was with me and she did not know. But I try to respect how she feels. I have tried talking to her about why I carry, but she just says that she can take care of herself.
I have told her that I know that she can, but there are things out in this world that not even she could take care of.
She wont even give me an answer as to why she does not want me to carry other then that she just does not want me to.
Can anyone point me to something that might help me with her?
Thanks for any help.