ultimately man, it sounds like you're in a stalemate position (trust me, i've been there). I'm guessing that just about anything you say wont' have much influence. She probably needs to hear it from someone else she views as an authority on the subject.
i would definitely point her to cornered cat. http://www.corneredcat.com/TOC.aspx
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- Wed Jul 11, 2007 9:01 am
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- Tue Jul 03, 2007 10:02 am
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good question, I hope some of the women on the forum speak up here too.
My wife was the same way. She was actually a bit worse at first. She liked having the gun in the house for security but did NOT like the idea of me carrying it around with me.
I tried to casually talk to her about it a few times, but she would clam up as to WHY she was uncomfortable. I dont think she actually knew why in hindsight. It just wasn't something she was raised with (carrying).
I finally sat down and had a heart to heart and laid out my reasons and actually had a drafted list, gave her a few news clippings to read where CHL folks had defended themselves. After she read the articles she did a 180 on my carrying and actually decided she eventually wants to get a CHL too.
Then I talked her into going to the range. She discovered she didn't like my .45 (too much kick, scares her), but she LOVED the 9mm my buddy brought with us. She now wants one of her own and I'm actually trying to trade down to 9mm now for capacity reasons. She discovered she really likes shooting and oddly enough she thinks "it's really hot" when I'm shooting. Now i'm not allowed to go to the range without her and I usually get mauled when I get home.
We're also looking at doing IDPA matches when we get a 9mm and can get some more practice in. She's excited about it and it's something we can do together.
If you try the above and it still doesn't work let me know and I'll put my woman on the phone with your woman and see if they can speak that secret wife language they all have.
Note: Not typical results. Your results may vary.
My wife was the same way. She was actually a bit worse at first. She liked having the gun in the house for security but did NOT like the idea of me carrying it around with me.
I tried to casually talk to her about it a few times, but she would clam up as to WHY she was uncomfortable. I dont think she actually knew why in hindsight. It just wasn't something she was raised with (carrying).
I finally sat down and had a heart to heart and laid out my reasons and actually had a drafted list, gave her a few news clippings to read where CHL folks had defended themselves. After she read the articles she did a 180 on my carrying and actually decided she eventually wants to get a CHL too.
Then I talked her into going to the range. She discovered she didn't like my .45 (too much kick, scares her), but she LOVED the 9mm my buddy brought with us. She now wants one of her own and I'm actually trying to trade down to 9mm now for capacity reasons. She discovered she really likes shooting and oddly enough she thinks "it's really hot" when I'm shooting. Now i'm not allowed to go to the range without her and I usually get mauled when I get home.
We're also looking at doing IDPA matches when we get a 9mm and can get some more practice in. She's excited about it and it's something we can do together.
If you try the above and it still doesn't work let me know and I'll put my woman on the phone with your woman and see if they can speak that secret wife language they all have.
Note: Not typical results. Your results may vary.