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karder wrote:Whatever happened to old fashioned civility?

Oldgringo wrote:

karder wrote:Whatever happened to old fashioned civility?

One answer might be working mothers, Rap (?) music, violent computer games and kid's cartoons along with so-called TV reality shows? Another answer might be Obama et al. OTOH, it may be Bush's fault...I dunno'.

Whatever it is, it ain't my fault.

rubiconjp wrote:
...Though if in that situation, with the man clearly agitated that it was his spot, I would have told him that I did not realize that, and am willing to swap the spaces with him.

The Annoyed Man wrote:

clarionite wrote:One thing that the OP said gives me something to think about though...

I'm 6'7" and 300+lbs. I'm by no means a small guy. I've read several posts that mention disparity in size as a factor in making the decision to go to code red.

Size is like any other thing, it can work for or against you, according to how you use it. I've known several guys your size. One of my friends is a former middle linebacker for the San Diego Chargers. His younger brother was an All American center at Northern Arizona State. Another friend is a former defensive end for the New England Patriots. They have all experienced what you said—an idiot starting something with them because they were huge and the other guy was trying to impress everyone with how "badass" he was. But also, my friends all have pretty mellow personalities, and most people see them as big gentle teddy bears. In fact, lots of people feel very safe around them, because these are all guys who know now to restrain themselves, but who also know how to unleash hades on anyone who wants to make life hard on them or their loved ones. You've never really had your butt handed to you until it gets handed to you by somebody who gets paid large sums of cash money to deal in violence for the entertainment of the masses.

What you, as a large man have to understand and live with, is that your size can be very intimidating to "normal" sized people, if you are expressing any kind of anger. That intimidation can be useful if the situation calls for it, but it can also escalate a situation well beyond whatever you intended, simply because you scared someone worse than you intended.

CC Italian wrote:Funny! She has a fusion and it had the factory 17inch Michelin pilots on it but they were running a deal on Pirelli so we got those. $330 because only the backs needed to be replaced instead of $530 Michelin's. Well see how they go, Michelin's have always been good tires but pricey. We gave them a try, these are a 45,000 mile tire while the Michelin's are supposed to be 50,000.

clarionite wrote:TAM,
I'm aware that my size can intimidate. And I've used it to my advantage more times than I can think of, sometimes not even conciously thinking of it till it's over with.

It's just something that you learn to do. But usually it's to keep issues from escalating. I'm very quiet and easy going for the most part. My wife calls me her teddy bear too. But as recently as a month or so ago, I've "puffed up" (intentionally making myself look as large as I can) to make someone who's on the verge of making the decision of engaging me back down. Kids love me, they think of me as playground equipment to climb on. I hadn't thought much about my size working against me much until recently while I was reading these threads. I rarely worry that I've scared someone worse than I've intended because if I've been pushed far enough to blow, then I did intend to scare them that much.

XnTx wrote: Then it struck me...will I hear the bullet or not? I wasn't CHL. Too many people and too much stress. I was lucky.

rubiconjp wrote:Though if in that situation, with the man clearly agitated that it was his spot, I would have told him that I did not realize that, and am willing to swap the spaces with him.