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tbrown wrote:

The Annoyed Man wrote:My son says that if he has a daughter, when her date comes to pick her up, he's going to be sitting at the coffee table in his boxes, cleaning a 1911. When her date walks into the room, my son's going to tell him, "I've got no problem at all being sent back up to the big house. Now, what time did you say my daughter was going to be home?"

That sounds like an excellent way to ensure nice young men will have nothing to do with her. On the other hand, dirt bags and gang bangers with no respect for women won't be bothered by the idea her daddy is just like them.

And what makes you think she will be raised to date dirt bags and gang bangers with no respect for women?

I had one instance where i wrote the young mans name on a bullet with a sharpie. When he came to pick up my daughter I showed him the bullet and his eyes got big. I told him if he touched my daughter any where he wouldn't touch his mother I was going to deliver the bullet. The classic part was when he asked my daughter later if I was serious and she said she told him why do you think I'm single.

4copas wrote:And what makes you think she will be raised to date dirt bags and gang bangers with no respect for women?

With all due respect, if you feel the need to threaten the boys your daughter wants to date, I believe you answered your own question.

tbrown wrote:

The Annoyed Man wrote:My son says that if he has a daughter, when her date comes to pick her up, he's going to be sitting at the coffee table in his boxes, cleaning a 1911. When her date walks into the room, my son's going to tell him, "I've got no problem at all being sent back up to the big house. Now, what time did you say my daughter was going to be home?"

That sounds like an excellent way to ensure nice young men will have nothing to do with her. On the other hand, dirt bags and gang bangers with no respect for women won't be bothered by the idea her daddy is just like them.

Dude, first of all, that was a joke. Second of all, DON'T tak about my son that way.

4copas wrote:

The Annoyed Man wrote:My son says that if he has a daughter, when her date comes to pick her up, he's going to be sitting at the coffee table in his boxes, cleaning a 1911. When her date walks into the room, my son's going to tell him, "I've got no problem at all being sent back up to the big house. Now, what time did you say my daughter was going to be home?"

Father of two daughters- TAM- if you haven't already, tell your son he is spot on. When those days came for me, there were always 2 shotguns hanging over the fireplace. These were surrounded by a bookcase filled with pictures of my girls and myself posing over various game taken together or by them on their own. Deer, elk, turkey, pigs, dove, whatever met the bad end of the gun. ALWAYS a gun being cleaned on the coffee table along with sharpening stone and a few knives. We are a pretty tight family with no trust issues, but still the thought of a boys arm around your baby

My girls laughed at me, but they knew I was serious and also how much I loved them. They actually got a kick out of it and looked forward to the whole thing each time. Wife would just roll her eyes, but inside was loving it.

So far we have one son in law who by the request of my daughter needed my permission to marry her
I think daughter number two will be the same. Thanks to the OP, I have something new to use with number two.

God bless the boy that wants to date my grand daughter

Thank you, I appreciate it. According to tbrown, your son and mine are no better than the gang bangers who will be the only guys interested in their daughters.....because our sons are no better than those gang bangers.

apostate wrote:

4copas wrote:And what makes you think she will be raised to date dirt bags and gang bangers with no respect for women?

With all due respect, if you feel the need to threaten the boys your daughter wants to date, I believe you answered your own question.

With all due respect, you're just plain wrong. How many daughters have you raised so far?

Men who respect women don't need to be threatened to treat women with respect. Therefore, if a father feels the need to threaten the young men his daughter wants to date, that speaks volumes, even if some people refuse to hear it.

In fact, it says it so clearly, I need say nothing further on this topic. Goodnight y'all.

apostate wrote:Men who respect women don't need to be threatened to treat women with respect. Therefore, if a father feels the need to threaten the young men his daughter wants to date, that speaks volumes, even if some people refuse to hear it.

In fact, it says it so clearly, I need say nothing further on this topic. Goodnight y'all.

With all due respect, I have not threatened anybody my daughters want to date. You consider the OP and whats been stated since a threat compared to a father loving his daughter

apostate wrote:Men who respect women don't need to be threatened to treat women with respect. Therefore, if a father feels the need to threaten the young men his daughter wants to date, that speaks volumes, even if some people refuse to hear it.

In fact, it says it so clearly, I need say nothing further on this topic. Goodnight y'all.

You didn't answer the question and then fled, which tells me that you've never raised children. Never worried about what somebody's intentions were for your daughter. You don't know, so you're speaking from ignorance. You come on here and accuse fathers whom you don't know of not respecting women, because they seek to protect their daughters from predatory boys? Please do us all a favor and don't have any kids until you're ready to look after their welfare until they leave home.

I have a daughter that is grown and married now. I discovered that my daughter had the ability to sort out the good guys from the bad guys. I believe if we raise our kids right, both girls and boys, they will do what is right when we are not in the room. Our daughters will typically gravitate torwards men who show them the same level of respect they get from us as fathers. We accomplish more by spending quality time with our daughters than by spending time telling them what not to do.

That being said... it never hurt to have a "skull-on-a-stick" planted in the front yard.


I got lucky. My son in law treats my daughter like she is a queen.

03Lightningrocks wrote:I have a daughter that is grown and married now. I discovered that my daughter had the ability to sort out the good guys from the bad guys. I believe if we raise our kids right, both girls and boys, they will do what is right when we are not in the room. Our daughters will typically gravitate torwards men who show them the same level of respect they get from us as fathers. We accomplish more by spending quality time with our daughters than by spending time telling them what not to do.

That being said... it never hurt to have a "skull-on-a-stick" planted in the front yard.

My point exactly. Anyone here who has ever met my son knows that I'm not a "keep it locked down" kind of father. He had lots of room because he earned the trust. And I have enough friends with daughters who raised them the same way I raised my son. But I also know what my desires were when I was 16, and anybody who says that most healthy boys don't have similar desires today is either naive or a liar. And that doesn't mean that all lusty boys are wannabe gangbangers (a notion that is disrespectful of men, I might add). It is absolutely natural for a father to want to protect his daughter from the dishonorable intentions of others, and it is not even CLOSE to being disrespectful. Anyone who would accuse a father who is looking out for his daughter's best interests of being disrespectful of women is simply reaching to try and connect two non-existent dots. I am actually stunned that someone could have that opinion.

I'll tell any guy who has never raised children and who presumes to lecture those who have, and have done it successfully, and to twist that parent's words into a nonexistent meaning about disrespecting women, to please do everyone a favor and get a vasectomy before they damage the futures of any potential children of theirs.

You are more than correct TAM. I was and still am VERY protective of my daughter. If I even get a sniff of somebody doing her wrong, I feel it kicking in. There have been a few times I had to bite my lip...LOL.

Raising children is one of those things that one has to experience. Funny... by the time we get good at it... we are done and it is time to spoil the grand kids.

speedsix wrote:...ask him if that plan was born of a repentant spirit and a guilty conscience...

LOL. Looking at the posts it's easy to guess which guys are coming from that place. Although the second half is overpowering the first based on some of the strong reactions.

My 17 year old daughter is blue eyed and red headed. She hasn't dated a lot (she's a beauty, but super book smart and a little geeky) but there have been a couple of boys that I was NOT fond of right from the get-go. Boys that, when introduced to me, said things like "S'up?" instead of "Hello ma'am it's nice to meet you." There was even one boy, who knowing full well that my daughter was grounded, sent me a message on Facebook asking if she could come over to his house to "hang out, eat pizza and watch movies." My reply back was simply: "REQUEST DENIED."

I plan to use this "Application to Date My Daughter" on the next one that comes along. My favorite is number 11.

I don't have any daughters but I do know that teenage boys are nothing but trouble. I used to be one. Every boy who goes to pick up a girl at her home needs to know that she has a pair of very involved parents who are going to make their presence known and enforce strict rules. Most young men are okay if you give them a short leash and a firm hand, but if you give them and inch, they will take a mile. Shotguns at the ready gentlemen!
My wife is the baby of three sisters and the first two girls married "difficult" guys. When my wife's parents met me and found out I was a God-fearing conservative, my now mother-in-law went into full "get her married to him" mode. Parents have really good instincts when it comes to their kids.