Re: Feeling compelled to "be polite"
Posted: Sat Apr 26, 2014 11:04 pm
That's me too Selina! You are not alone! I'm too nice and usually say nothing.Selina Kyle wrote:It sounds like you witnessed the "chat and cut". I'll be honest, I'm not a people person and often find myself irritated when dealing with the general public. However, I am also very non-confrontational by nature, so I typically don't say much. And when I do say something, I often wonder if I was rude & should have just let it go.RX8er wrote:Something very similar happened to me and TBM. We were at Walmart returning who knows what. We were about 3 or 4 in line. The lady that was due up next, saw a friend walk by as she waited. The friend walked up and they struck up a conversation. When the lady finished her business that waited in line, she let her friend who didn't wait in line right in there. I spoke up and commented that there was a line and that it started right back there, pointing to where she needed to go. They both eventually walked out of the store and she didn't conduct her business, which I believe was to cash a check.
And, in this case, the store employee wasn't going to say a thing.
I have in numerous cases, let someone in line in front of me that has an item or two and people have reciprocated the same to me. I generally do not do it though if I have people behind me.
If you get a chance, please check out that book I recommended above. It really gave me a lot to think about as far as giving myself permission to be rude, fight, and push back. I'm just not wired that way, so it really made me reconsider how I view aggressive people.
This is a good one. During a recent discussion about a troubled employee, my HR manager [originally from Mississippi] said "Bless her heart".