Only kidding. I'm old fashioned. I would not like for a woman to ask me to marry her. Frankly, if I was interested, I would be the one bringing it up... But that is just me. I'm the guy who believes in "If there is an elephant in the room, introduce him." So I might not be the best one to listen to.
Start with "So, what do you think about us getting married in the next year or two?
It let's him know that you are interested and if he wants to, he will commit, if he doesn't, then now you know.
There are a few of us who don't mind the testosterone levels being through the roof. ;)
And yes, I can see from all of your responses I definitely need to make it a conversation. I think most likely we just have a different time line. I'd be fine marrying him tomorrow or in a couple years. What I'm not ok with is waiting two more years to get engaged.
"I can see it's dangerous for you, but if the government trusts me, maybe you could."
You could have him join the forum, and let him "discover" your thoughts on his own. We are as Parabelum said, clueless most of the time, but sometimes we make the connection.
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Jusme wrote:You could have him join the forum, and let him "discover" your thoughts on his own. We are as Parabelum said, clueless most of the time, but sometimes we make the connection.
Lol we already have one Yankee on here that I know of. One at a time is plenty. Otherwise we risk some horrible Giants crap slipping into Cowboys Nation.
"I can see it's dangerous for you, but if the government trusts me, maybe you could."
Well, TexasTornado, I'm going to put on my Dad hat and tell you what I would tell ChildV.
You and your hubby are going to have to communicate. Otherwise, you might as well give up now. So, tell him what you expect. If he can't go with that then he ain't the man for you.
DocV wrote:Well, TexasTornado, I'm going to put on my Dad hat and tell you what I would tell ChildV.
You and your hubby are going to have to communicate. Otherwise, you might as well give up now. So, tell him what you expect. If he can't go with that then he ain't the man for you.
Lol. Well I communicate...usually in the form of email. (Don't laugh, it lets me revise my wording 20 times until all the heat is out of it and I can actually get to what's really wrong instead of making him guess)
I just don't think this is an email conversation so planning my words in advance is going to be important. I know he loves me. I know he's not going anywhere...but that's not quite the same thing as taking life from his and mine to ours.
"I can see it's dangerous for you, but if the government trusts me, maybe you could."
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TT I do think we're sisters!
Do it! ask him! some guys you just have to push.
Well when you have a semi-captive audience of male brains to pick...it seemed like a good place to start!
I think I'm going to push on the conversation at least. The question, I'll have to see how the rest of it goes, but honestly I think he'll want to make the official gesture. Not that he's super old fashioned and would be upset, but I just think it would be his preference.
"I can see it's dangerous for you, but if the government trusts me, maybe you could."
well, Robert and I have been married 28 years. I had to push the issue even back then, and we still laugh that he never actually "officially" asked me to marry him until he sent me a card via his best man, just before we walked down the aisle. LOL
~Tracy
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I'm not the right person to ask about this sort of thing. The way it worked for us was we met in January and both knew where the trail led pretty quick. Within a month.
About a month after that I proposed and she pretended surprise.
Six months from "Howdy" to the altar, hardly recommendable.
Which reminds me, I think I need to hunt up some flowers. The first 31 years have gone pretty well since that January in '85, if I behave maybe I can see another 31.
treadlightly wrote:I'm not the right person to ask about this sort of thing. The way it worked for us was we met in January and both knew where the trail led pretty quick. Within a month.
About a month after that I proposed and she pretended surprise.
Six months from "Howdy" to the altar, hardly recommendable.
Which reminds me, I think I need to hunt up some flowers. The first 31 years have gone pretty well since that January in '85, if I behave maybe I can see another 31.
Funny thing is, he had to convince me to date him. The first time he flew down here as "just friends" I even insisted on separate rooms (as if that lasted long) but once I knew, I knew and I've never been one to just sit back. I go after the things I want in life. Take the bull by the horns so to speak. I would have been good at 6 months. Definitely at a year. At a year and a half I'm chomping at the bit lol.
Don't forget chocolate!!!
"I can see it's dangerous for you, but if the government trusts me, maybe you could."
Take my opinion for what it's worth which may not be much lol but I'm newly engaged and will be getting married October 28th. I asked her but if she had had asked me I wouldn't of minded. But we had discussed it for a long time and it was understood she wanted me to ask and ask her parents. But me as a person I wouldn't of cared. It actually would have been cool
