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Abraham wrote:TexasTornado,

One more match.com question: Age difference? Not your age, just difference...

A friend of mine (female) keeps marrying men (her last 2) who're exactly 9 years younger than herself (I guess it's a coincidence) and it just never works out. Of course, to be fair, the other 3 were roughly her age and those marriages didn't work out either. So... Yeah, she's been married 5 times and is currently pursuing her 6th. She tells me she just can't stand being alone.

21 years difference.

At 21 years difference I do think the age of the youngest partner plays an effect. 20 and 41....I say no. 30 and 51, I'd say go.

Abraham wrote:I neglected to mention you should know each other for at least 2 years before marrying.

I'll go you one better, even though my wife of 31 years and I knew each other just six months before we married. We would have tied the knot sooner, but she had a National Guard commitment. First things first, one of many reasons I respect her.

My parents enjoyed 33 years together, separated only by my Dad's passing, after about six weeks of getting-aquainted time.

But I agree, that's not a plan.

In fact, anytime anyone asks me if marriage is a good idea I tell them, emphatically, NO!

Two people who should be as one won't be deterred like a blowhard like me, and any couple that would let common sense block a blessed life aren't going to make it, anyway.

Marriage is a jump made without a safety chute, only to be done when no safety chute will be needed. My notion, anyway.

WTR wrote:At 21 years difference I do think the age of the youngest partner plays an effect. 20 and 41....I say no. 30 and 51, I'd say go.

28-49 close enough

Best wishes.

TexasTornado wrote:

WTR wrote:At 21 years difference I do think the age of the youngest partner plays an effect. 20 and 41....I say no. 30 and 51, I'd say go.

28-49 close enough

I have never dated a woman younger than me who also was not more emotionally mature than I was. They--though few--all were.

That said, I married a woman two years older than me.

Skiprr wrote:

TexasTornado wrote:

WTR wrote:At 21 years difference I do think the age of the youngest partner plays an effect. 20 and 41....I say no. 30 and 51, I'd say go.

28-49 close enough

I have never dated a woman younger than me who also was not more emotionally mature than I was. They--though few--all were.

That said, I married a woman two years older than me.

He's definitely my rock. But I'm a bit of an old soul.

glock27 wrote:Thats a huuuuge age gap. stats show marriage now days has a high failure rate. Throw that in with a huuuge age gap and your rate goes astronomically higher. None of my business and not to side track the thread but. I am gonna assume your the 28 and him the 49?

Studies have repeatedly proved that 100% of all divorces began with marriage.

glock27 wrote:Thats a huuuuge age gap. stats show marriage now days has a high failure rate. Throw that in with a huuuge age gap and your rate goes astronomically higher. None of my business and not to side track the thread but. I am gonna assume your the 28 and him the 49?

Yea I'm 28 he's 49 and yea many young people don't get that marriage requires WORK. That 4 letter word my generation seems to be allergic to.

TexasTornado wrote:Ok since I happen to have a very male dominated group to ask...

How would ya'll feel about a woman asking you to marry her?

Not thinking of doing anything big and showy or getting him a ring or any of that nonsense. Figured I'd ask him while we were cuddling so he can either take it as a proposal or just a discussion if that's more comfortable for him.

I have no desire to steal his thunder, but at the same time, I know I want him and only him for the rest of my life and I'm more than ready to start living our lives together.

So gentlemen...thoughts or suggestions?

I was completely fine with it when she surprised me by asking me this past Leap Day!

Glockster wrote:

TexasTornado wrote:Ok since I happen to have a very male dominated group to ask...

How would ya'll feel about a woman asking you to marry her?

Not thinking of doing anything big and showy or getting him a ring or any of that nonsense. Figured I'd ask him while we were cuddling so he can either take it as a proposal or just a discussion if that's more comfortable for him.

I have no desire to steal his thunder, but at the same time, I know I want him and only him for the rest of my life and I'm more than ready to start living our lives together.

So gentlemen...thoughts or suggestions?

I was completely fine with it when she surprised me by asking me this past Leap Day!

That would be an awesome day to be unconventional!!!