I don't think eye contact (hard or soft) is incitement at all...
If another person is offended or decides to take action upon that, its their problem, not mine...
If they are doing something that is perceived by me to be a threat...You bet I am going to lock on phasers, open the outer doors, firing point procedures...
They may not know what I am prepared to do, but rest assured it will not happen if "they" just go about their business...
Most of the time I am not so persnickety, and go about my business anyway...You'd never know it from me...But I am tired of the perception of those who carry as to being on some kind of power trip, or hair trigger away from doing something drastic, despite my previous statement to the contrary...
No, I am not relaxing in my armchair!

"Perseverance and Preparedness triumph over Procrastination and Paranoia every time.” -- Steve
NRA - Life Member
"Quis custodiet ipsos custodes?"
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