I heard a great recommendation about how to diffuse tension in a marriage and other significant relationship...
If the arguments turn into verbal assaults using foul language against the other spouse...
You should in a moment of peace sit down and write out 7-8 words that are "allowed" to be used in situations like this that are of a less foul nature...
Present that to the "spouse" in a moment of calm and non-antagonistic manner...And state in reasonable tone and demeanor, that these are the terms that are allowed to be used in any argument in the future, no exceptions...You must both agree and sign the card and put it away in a safe place...
And when those words are used the other spouse is required without any hesitation or condition, to give the other a kiss every time one of those terms is used...
No ifs, ands or buts!!!
See how well conflict resolution works...
I know this sounds like a Utopian pseudo psycho gobbledy goop...But there is something that makes sense with this, and we as people who are extremely mindful of how things can escalate into undesirable situations by mere words...
I think this is something you should really sit back and kinda think about how you can wrap around this idea to keep harmony in your relationship...
Domestic violence is a serious issue and problem in this country...And we have a responsibility as adults to do what we can to introduce practical methods to change this tide of reactionary and escalating tension in our small circle of friends and family and encourage it to grow...
No, this is not a Dr. Phil solution...
