I'm happy to hear that some of my posts are helpful to you. It's truly gratifying to hear that.edmart001 wrote:I've been thinking about it almost all day and I'm pretty comfortable with what I did overall but I do agree that the big thing I should do differently if the same thing were to happen again is get my wife into my sons room, wake up my son, and then discuss the next steps with him before doing anything else. Of course, if the VA ever gets caught up with his GI Bill payments, he will probably move out to his own place and then it'll be back down to the wife and I here.
With the additional detail you provided, I'll make another suggestion. Get together with the family and discuss exactly what actions each member will take if the alarm goes off in the middle of the night now, before that situation happens again. Imminent danger sharply reduces one's ability to think straight, so it's not a good time for formulating plans. Also, with two armed and trained people sleeping on different floors of the house, it's really important that you know exactly what each will do and where each one will be so you don't have a tragic outcome. Considering the amount of movement involved to get everyone in one place, you might also consider two defensive positions - one in the upstairs bedroom for you, and one in your son's room for him and your wife. It would be much safer for her to move a short distance to another room on the same floor than it would be for you to get there from upstairs. Stairways are not fun places to be when things go south.
If you have a good alarm sounding device installed inside as you plan, your son should awaken when you do. Having a keypad installed in the master bedroom is also an excellent idea. I strongly recommend the English language LED types. They cost a little more, but when you're awakened by your siren in the middle of the night it's a lot easier to figure out what "Back Door" means than it is to interpret "Zone 4". You could then communicate the location of the break to your other family members so they have an idea of what might be going on.
I agree with both you and Steve that getting the family together and in one protected place should be your priority, and make that room your defensive perimeter. Steve is right on about the difficulty of successfully attacking a prepared defensive position, and I'm sure your son has ample experience to confirm that.
You might also consider a set of walkie-talkie radios with earpieces and throat mikes for each member so you can communicate as you move to get together. They're not expensive, and they're worth their weight in gold when needed. Another option is to use the intercom feature on your wireless phones if extensions are located in each bedroom, which they should be for any emergency. The drawbacks to that is someone calling to you will generate ring sounds that can give your position away if you use it while moving, and with most sets only two phones can talk with each other, which leaves your third family member out of the loop. I mention it because it might be an acceptable option for someone else with only one other family member to account for.
In any case, your unscheduled exercise turns out to be a good thing. Your thinking and planning for a real situation is far ahead of what it was before that alarm went off, and you'll be far better prepared with a new plan you can have confidence in for next time.