I want to thank you all for the suggestions and guidance you have given me. I had a great time at the Hi-Caliber show at the GRB. It was a pleasure meeting SecedeTX and SRVA and chatting with them for a while.
It was a little harder to compare models than I anticipated. Even though I have been to several shows before, I have never been on a focused mission to compare various specific models. They are, of course, not located right by each other and with the security cable and tie wraps, it gets really hard to compare. Plus, all of the sub compacts are too small for my hands w/o the magazines. So its hard to get a good feel how they would shoot sans the mags.
But overall we didn't do too bad.
This was my hit list:
Taurus Millennium
Springfield XD Subcompact
CZ 2075 Rami
Ruger SR9c
Bersa Thunder 9UC
S&W M&P Compact
Functionally, I probably liked the XD the best. But the XD, the Millennium, and the M&P all seem really wide at the slide. I wasn't hating them - but I didn't love them either. I have large hands, but somehow they just seem wider than I'd like. I didn't care for the CZ Rami - although I can't quite put my finger on why. The Bersa was very hard to find in a 9 and when I did, it seemed a bit heavy. The one I liked best as far as feel in my hands is the SR9c.
Turns out my FIL had bought a full size SR9 at a show several months ago - but he had never fired it. (I knew he bought a Ruger, but I didn't know what model.) So we went and put 70+ rounds through it and it felt pretty good. His mag button is *really* tight though. I need to research that for him a little bit - it was way tighter than it should be. We also shot his Judge for the first time with 45LC and 410 shells - that was a total blast!!!!
He also picked up a Fobus Paddle holster for it at the show which is great because I was considering a Blade-Tech paddle. Once we got home and cleaned the weapons, I tried the holster a bit and got a little discouraged. I know his SR9 was full size, but the only position I that didn't print horribly was about 5:00. Anything from 2:30 - 4:30 stuck out like zit on prom night. I don't mind 5:00 when walking around - but there is no way I could sit with it there.
Also, the gun was also not very stable on my hip - it wobbled quite a bit as I walked. I wasn't wearing a 'gun belt' but it is a new leather belt. It's pretty wide (1.5 inches) and stout belt - I don't really see how a gun belt could be any different. So my concern is that I am just not built - or don't yet dress - in a way that can support anything largish in an OWB carry. And I am pretty sure that I don't want to IWB carry.
So anyway, I think my list is now :
Ruger SR9c
Springfield XD Subcompact
S&W M&P Compact
(With the Taurus Millennium in 4th runner up position if the others don't pan out.)
I will work on trying to shoot each of these to get a better feel. I also continue to investigate other carry options as I suspect that OWB paddle will not work well for me.
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