I am working with a Centennial J-frame, and have been experimenting mostly with high thumbs (above/behind the cylinder release) with some degree of success, but the recoil/muzzle flip eventually bites the inside of my thumb. Admittedly, my calluses need some more work.

Upon first blush, the "high-performance grip" (support-side hand cammed forward, hands as high as possible relative to the bore axis, ~60/40 support/strong side pressure distribution, etc) that is recommended for use with flat-sided semi-automatics does not seem like a great fit with the smaller revolver, due to the revolver's more irregular surfaces, rotating cylinder, hot gases venting past the cylinder face, and lack of a tang where the thumb-index finger webbing can be pushed, among other reasons. Is there a "Tao" for gripping a snubnose revolver that is generally accepted---much as most top competition shooters shoot their semi-automatic pistols using essentially the same technique?
I have read that trigger control is truly the core skill associated with mastering double-action revolvers, but I would like to get my grip correct before accumulating more reps on the trigger control aspect.
I am seeking more of a "software" answer than a gadget solution, though I also realize that beggars cannot be choosers.
Any suggestions or ideas?