Bought a .45 Sunday at the gun show.

Federal MADE (Discontinued) PD45CSP2 H low recoil, low muzzle flash ammo 185 grain JHP.
Looking for a low recoil, low muzzle flash ammo.
Considering Manufacture: Item# HN90900
HORNADY .45 AUTO "CRITICAL DEFENSE" FTX Weight: 185gr
http://www.hornady.com/store/45-ACP-185 ... al-Defense" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;
* Unaffected by thick and heavy clothing, including denim and leather.
* FTX bullet delivers superior controlled expansion and large, deep wound cavities over a wide range of velocities.
* Clean burning and stable propellants reduce recoil in lightweight handguns, and perform consistently in all temperatures.
* Minimal muzzle flash protects night vision.
* Feeds reliably in pistols.
* Shiny silver nickel plating prevents corrosion, and is easily visible in low light situations.
* Bullets are cannelured and crimped to avoid bullet setback.
* Bullets are custom designed for individual loads.
* The most effective, consistent, and reliable self-defense ammunition available today!
I haven't tried it yet, but like that ammo in 9mm a lot.
Recoil is an issue with my one hand, no support hand grip (I only have one hand), and I'm getting a ported barrel to help on recoil, so flash is an issue, normal flash is ok, flamethrowers aren't.
Other recommendations? Anyone try them and hate them? Anything better?